Defying the 1 Percent: Surviving Impossible Odds and Building Million-Dollar Dreams

Briana Dai [00:00:00]:

The true meaning between the dream and the calling that we talk. We've talked about in other episodes is when you know when it's a calling, that it's not going to give up on you. And you owe it to yourself. Yourself and your soul.

Sandra Yancey [00:00:14]:

Yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:00:14]:

Who are you now? I'm sitting there. Was you before April 11th.

Briana Dai [00:00:20]:

Yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:00:20]:

And there's you today.

Sandra Yancey [00:00:22]:

No, you won't let me forget it. What did I say? They took the breathing tube, they intubated you, and the first thing you said when they pulled that out is, can you say this?

Briana Dai [00:00:46]:

All right, well, welcome to she means Millions. We are going to be talking about a really interesting concept, and it's the concept of 1%. And the story behind that is a lot deeper than just a percent or a number or a very low possibility. It's multi pronged. It's multi tiered. At the Women Network, our mission is to help 1 million women each achieve $1 million in annual revenue and less than 2%, in fact, 1.7% of women

Sandra Yancey [00:01:21]:

actually do that in the U.S. in

Briana Dai [00:01:24]:

the U.S. and so our mission is change that. And 1% is also very near and dear to our family's hearts because two years ago, I had a bit of a health crisis, a near death experience.

Sandra Yancey [00:01:42]:

And it wasn't near death. It was death.

Kym Yancey [00:01:44]:

You died? No, technically, yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:01:49]:

Technically, that's what they said. He died.

Briana Dai [00:01:51]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:01:53]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:01:54]:

And so, yeah, I was clinically dead for 45 minutes and came back kind of a vegetable. Couldn't really walk, couldn't talk.

Sandra Yancey [00:02:07]:

One eye was straight, the other eye was to the left. They put a spoon in your hand. You didn't know what it was, what to do with it.

Kym Yancey [00:02:14]:

Yeah, involuntary movements, your arms and legs. You couldn't. You couldn't control what your arms and legs did. Did. They were just flailing.

Briana Dai [00:02:23]:

Yeah. And the doctor said I had a 1% chance of recovering.

Sandra Yancey [00:02:28]:

That was before.

Sandra Yancey [00:02:28]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:02:29]:

That was while you were in an induced coma on life support. She said we should be focused.

Kym Yancey [00:02:36]:

Yeah. The. The emergency room doc, the 1% chance was an upgrade because the emergency room doc, when he came in to see us, your husband, me, told us that it was not looking good. You need to make alternate plans. And I was, look, I looked at him like, what are you trying to say to me? And right now I was like. He was pretty clear, but I couldn't hear it. I couldn't hear those words. Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:03:03]:

And then they kept you alive until I got there. Because I was in Denver rushing to get back and I was walking in. I Looked at you. And then I went over to the nurses like, what's going on? And they said. She said, take your time. We've got her comfortable until you come to terms. I'm like, what are you talking about? I mean, I just was like. And then I walk into the room, and right about then, the neurosurgeon, Dr.

Sandra Yancey [00:03:29]:

Poon, came in, and she said, I give her 1% chance to live. She doesn't have the brainwave. She doesn't have that. It's just been too. Too hard on her body. Um, yeah, but she's comfortable right now. And she walked out, and I. I walked over to where she was, and I just leaned into your ear and said, just rest.

Sandra Yancey [00:04:00]:

Take your time. It's okay. They say you got 1%, and you've always been a 1 percenter. So here we go. And I had. As a mother, I had to draw my own meaning because I was unwilling at that time to hear it as a death sentence. I just. I couldn't do it.

Sandra Yancey [00:04:32]:

I couldn't look at you. And, Yeah, I couldn't do it.

Briana Dai [00:04:42]:

Yeah. And from there, I did wake up some. Some progress was happening. Very slow progress. Slow progress.

Sandra Yancey [00:04:58]:

But you weren't squeezing anybody's. They said, get her to squeeze. Keep talking to her. Well, no, her brain is working. If she can respond, if she can squeeze, put your finger in her hands to see if she can squeeze it.

Briana Dai [00:05:09]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:05:10]:

And I was standing behind Travis. I was kind of scratching his back up and down. His back was freezing in there. He had a red sweatshirt on. And I was. He never left your side? I was worried about him. He seemed weak and worried. And I just went behind him.

Sandra Yancey [00:05:26]:

And then suddenly he just collapsed on top of you. He's 6 foot 4, 6 foot 5, however tall he is. And I knew instantly, without him saying anything, I just knew. And I just leaned over him. I said, did she just squeeze her your hand? And he nodded yes. And then we got on this journey of, you know, because you had kind of woken up, and involuntarily, you were thrashing. You did not know where you were, what was going on. You did not want that tube in your throat.

Sandra Yancey [00:06:00]:

And the nurses said, she's got to give us a thumbs up. She's got to do more than a squeeze. She's got to raise her hand, give us a thumbs up, and all of that. We worked and worked and worked with you. Every time you would, you know, have some consciousness, which was fleeting. So we were always all there, just for every second. And they're only supposed to have two people in the ICU room. They let.

Sandra Yancey [00:06:22]:

They let us all there all day. They knew our family, you know what I mean? And they saw us praying over you. They sent the. They sent the priest in. Chaplain. He was a chaplain. And I looked at him, and last time I saw a chaplain walk into a hospital room was giving last rights to my mother. And, man, I.

Briana Dai [00:06:46]:

You were triggered.

Sandra Yancey [00:06:47]:

I was triggered. I was like, what are you doing here? Who called you? Why are you here? And poor guy. And the nurses had just seen us praying over you. And. And he said, the nurses thought you might like some of my support for prayer. And I said, just as long as you're not here giving my daughter last rites, because she is not ready for last rites. He says, no, ma', am, I'm not. And he ended up.

Sandra Yancey [00:07:12]:

His name was Gary. Remember, he ended up becoming a friend and checking on you a lot. And I remember him because he came back once.

Briana Dai [00:07:22]:

I was awake.

Sandra Yancey [00:07:23]:

Yeah. He had a granddaughter your age, and so he was really moved by you, you know, much older guy. Yeah. Yeah. And then the journey to rebuild began. I mean, it was scary, and it was a haul. And they told us what got. It was.

Sandra Yancey [00:07:48]:

They were like, 90 days. 90 days. She's got 90 days to make 90% recovery. That's what we learn about TBIs, traumatic brain injuries. 90 days and she'll have 90% recovery. And I'm like, well, let's get to it, because we're on the clock. You know what I mean?

Sandra Yancey [00:08:03]:

We got to make this happen.

Sandra Yancey [00:08:04]:

What. What needs to happen to. You know, and you. Yeah, it's almost like, hard for me to even believe that it all happened, you know? But you. You. You were the 1%. Even Dr. Poon, remember, Kim, at the very end, they would not give you an MRI forever because you had to pass all these other gazillions of tests.

Sandra Yancey [00:08:25]:

And finally they gave you the mri. It was kind of the final thing. And she came back to give us the results. And it was like 8 o' clock at night, about 10 after 8, I think it was. And she said, I can't believe this, but I'm predicting she makes a full recovery. And you were at. I was across from her, and you were at the end of the bed by Brianna's feet. And you said, Dr.

Sandra Yancey [00:08:46]:

Poon, do you think we got a miracle? And she. It's the only time I ever saw her face because she always had a mask on. And she pulled down her mask and she looked at Kim, she looked at Me. And she said, you got a miracle. There is no medical explanation for this kind of recovery. She says this is God's work.

Kym Yancey [00:09:09]:

Let me ask you something, Brianna. If you had actually transitioned, was it peaceful? If it had ended with.

Briana Dai [00:09:26]:

I honestly, I don't think I ever, like, I. I almost believe there's like an in between, you know, because I don't. I don't ever remember going to heaven. It was almost like an out of body experience. And I can see Grammy's hand, and I could feel Grammy's hand on my hand and I can hear her voice so clearly. And.

Kym Yancey [00:09:47]:

Really?

Briana Dai [00:09:48]:

Yes. So it was almost like out of my body because I could see and feel Grammy on my hand and I felt hurt. She had the most distinct, the softest little hands and. And I heard her voice and all it said was, not yet. And that was my only memory from the other side. And I.

Kym Yancey [00:10:08]:

You don't recall, like any pain?

Briana Dai [00:10:10]:

No pain. I was in no pain. No. Yeah, it was peaceful. I was peaceful. I was just comforted and just. I. The only words were not yet.

Briana Dai [00:10:22]:

You know, and.

Sandra Yancey [00:10:25]:

Which is ironic because I was praying to my mother because I knew my mother had to be aligned to God.

Sandra Yancey [00:10:30]:

Yeah, I just knew my mother would wiggle her little 4 foot 8 way to like, excuse me, excuse me.

Sandra Yancey [00:10:36]:

I get something urgent. Excuse me.

Sandra Yancey [00:10:39]:

Whatever the line was to get to God, I knew my mother. I was like, I'm praying to a mom, but I know you're there and

Sandra Yancey [00:10:44]:

I need your help.

Briana Dai [00:10:45]:

Yeah, no, and she's. She. I mean, I've. She's always been my angel. Like, I feel her all the time, but she was definitely with me then.

Kym Yancey [00:10:55]:

And what's the first thing you can bring consciousness to, you know, first?

Briana Dai [00:11:04]:

Well, I woke up. I wasn't in ICU when I. My first memory. My first memory was on, I think the next. The next floor that they had moved me to.

Sandra Yancey [00:11:14]:

So there's a lot you don't remember because you woke up in icu?

Briana Dai [00:11:17]:

Yeah, I don't remember waking up there, but I.

Sandra Yancey [00:11:19]:

You don't remember what you said when they finally took the.

Sandra Yancey [00:11:21]:

No, but you won't let me forget it. What did I say? They took the breathing tube, they intubated you, and the first thing you said when they pulled that out is, can you say this? Can I say this? You can.

Kym Yancey [00:11:36]:

It's a podcast, okay?

Sandra Yancey [00:11:40]:

I'm not paying for this shit. I was like, she's in there. We're good. She's in there.

Kym Yancey [00:11:51]:

Wasn't it was that after the MRI or.

Sandra Yancey [00:11:53]:

No, no, that was before the mri because.

Sandra Yancey [00:11:55]:

Because they wouldn't let her out of ICU without her getting the. The.

Briana Dai [00:11:59]:

And they tried to take me down there.

Sandra Yancey [00:12:00]:

And I said, you know, they took her for the mri. Yeah, you scared them. You said. You said, I'm not going in there. They're like, calm down, whatever. And took forever for us to get it approved. Approved through the insurance, the whole nother story. And then you said, you're trying to take advantage of my situation.

Sandra Yancey [00:12:18]:

You hadn't said 20 words in the. And all the time, and you managed to string that together. They brought her up.

Sandra Yancey [00:12:24]:

I said, how'd it go? We didn't do it.

Sandra Yancey [00:12:26]:

I said, what do you mean you didn't do it?

Sandra Yancey [00:12:27]:

Yep.

Sandra Yancey [00:12:28]:

She didn't want us to do it. She told us we were taking advantage of her. I'm like, she can't move. She has no use of her. Like, what. What is going on?

Kym Yancey [00:12:37]:

You don't remember that?

Briana Dai [00:12:38]:

No, no, I don't. I just know the story.

Sandra Yancey [00:12:40]:

They had to give you volume to kind of put you out. Took another two days to get you

Briana Dai [00:12:45]:

down, which I guess they didn't want to do. And that impacts your brain function, your brain waves. So it would make them read lower. I mean, it's very on brand for me. What can I say?

Sandra Yancey [00:12:58]:

Exactly. But.

Briana Dai [00:12:59]:

But no. My first, like, cognitive memory was waking up and seeing Travis sitting over me. And he just said, hi. And I looked at him and I said, hi. Hi. And I said, what happened? Because I didn't remember what happened, why I was there.

Sandra Yancey [00:13:15]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:13:16]:

And he started trying to explain to me, you went to this place, you got this procedure. And I was kind of a regular at this place. Like, I had been there multiple times, so I kept saying, that was weeks ago, you know? And the last one that I remember, Priscilla was there with me. I was like, pre. Was there. This was weeks ago. And he was like, no, no. And I was just in denial.

Sandra Yancey [00:13:37]:

Yeah, you really struggled with acceptance of that. And the. And the nurses had told us, just tell her what she asks. Don't give her too much information. She's got to take it in so that she can process it bit by bit by bit.

Briana Dai [00:13:52]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:13:52]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:13:53]:

And. And then I just. I. I remember rolling over, and I think I just went back to sleep, you know, And.

Sandra Yancey [00:14:00]:

And I think you just closed your eyes.

Sandra Yancey [00:14:03]:

Yeah. Rolling at that time, but, yeah. Well, I remember looking away.

Briana Dai [00:14:06]:

I remember my head going away and going to sleep, and. Yeah. And I just. Yeah, that was my first memory.

Kym Yancey [00:14:17]:

Do you have any memory of the breathing tube going down?

Briana Dai [00:14:20]:

No.

Sandra Yancey [00:14:21]:

No, no.

Kym Yancey [00:14:22]:

Because it was. That was a. That was. That was a really frightful scene when you had awakened.

Briana Dai [00:14:30]:

Yeah. Oh, yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:14:31]:

Whatever degree of awakeness that you started

Sandra Yancey [00:14:33]:

thrashing and you start thrashing.

Briana Dai [00:14:35]:

I'm grateful I don't remember that.

Kym Yancey [00:14:36]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:14:36]:

You know, and I'm grateful I don't remember the whole. The feeling, you know, I, I.

Sandra Yancey [00:14:43]:

You don't remember the helicopter?

Briana Dai [00:14:45]:

I don't remember the helicopter. I don't remember going in, like, seizing. I don't remember going into cardiac arrests. I just woke up somewhere. The last thing that I remember that day was saying, I feel woozy. I couldn't even say the word woozy. I said, I feel oozy. And then it just is black until.

Briana Dai [00:15:09]:

Until the hospital.

Sandra Yancey [00:15:11]:

And then we started on this. Well, you're a 1 percenter, so let's go.

Briana Dai [00:15:15]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:15:15]:

Because, you know, once you survived it and came out of it. You know what I mean? And you were starting to. Your voice. I mean, I have recordings of your voice. It was, you know, I mean, you were really learning how to emote. Yeah. And pronounce your words. And, you know, addiction was so messed up.

Sandra Yancey [00:15:35]:

Intonation was off. I mean, everything was just really off.

Briana Dai [00:15:39]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:15:39]:

And the doctors would say, you know, that's. You just have to accept this could be the best she ever is.

Briana Dai [00:15:45]:

I couldn't move my left side at all.

Sandra Yancey [00:15:48]:

And you're a lefty. You know what I mean? And then he was like, oh, that might be the best she ever forgets. Do you remember every time the doctors would leave, the nurses would say, give her some time. Give her some time. They were so. The nurses were so.

Briana Dai [00:16:01]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:16:02]:

Not only just helpful, but hopeful. They loved you. They loved you. And when, you know, when you went back. Because a lot of times when you leave, they never know what happens to you. Yeah. So, yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:16:14]:

I was struck by one of those nights Travis was in the room with me, pretty sure. And his mom and dad, you know, Carl and Desiree. And Desiree. And a young lady came in. Nurse from another floor.

Briana Dai [00:16:29]:

Yes.

Kym Yancey [00:16:29]:

She came in from another floor, came into the waiting room. And she came in and just kind of stood there. We were sitting there, like, you know, just stood there. Because we didn't know if it was someone coming.

Sandra Yancey [00:16:39]:

We were in the waiting area.

Kym Yancey [00:16:40]:

Yeah. To tell us something or whatever, you know, and she says, I just so thankful that we don't get this. We don't get. She was communicating that they don't get good news. Like, she was you were gone. Like, you know, you were. You were. I think, for them, at some level, you were gone.

Kym Yancey [00:17:05]:

Like, she's not going to come out of this. And for you to come out of this so impacted the other nurses.

Sandra Yancey [00:17:11]:

Yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:17:12]:

I mean, it was something with your experience. I'm just saying. Something experienced that resonated with the hospital.

Sandra Yancey [00:17:19]:

Yeah. The nurses on the ICU who took such a love for you. And I'll never forget when you got out of ICU and moved onto the other floor. I'm in there with you. And that one nurse, the one nurse that said one of the first signs of hope is that your eyes were retracting again. They weren't upon arrival, which is not a good sign. And so the nurses said, so anyway, I'm down on the other floor with you. And one of the main nurses, the one that said, we've got some good news.

Sandra Yancey [00:17:52]:

Her eyes are starting to show that they're starting to retract again, which tells us she's got some brain function going on. She came bolting through the door in the room, and I looked at her and said, oh, she was out of context because she was the ICU nurse. She says, I still have access to her charts from upstairs. And I'm looking and I'm. I'm seeing that she's fully woken up, that she's. And she says, I had to come down here, but right before my shift, I had to come and see for myself. I mean, you were such a beacon of, you know, hope for them and positive. Yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:18:26]:

You know. Yeah, it was.

Sandra Yancey [00:18:27]:

It was then they started to connect with you on Instagram and, you know, all of that. And we went back and. Yeah, saw them and thanked them and even the. The woman that brought your food trays.

Briana Dai [00:18:40]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:18:41]:

When she saw you when you went to that floor to see the nurses, she happened to be working day, and she. I remember her. She put her hands, you know, over her cheeks to the side of her eyes, like, is this. Is this who I think this is? Yeah. Remember? And she just finally walked over. She cried.

Sandra Yancey [00:18:58]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:18:59]:

I mean, it was so.

Kym Yancey [00:19:03]:

Oh.

Sandra Yancey [00:19:03]:

So what got us on all of this.

Briana Dai [00:19:05]:

I think what it is is, you know, being given a 1% chance to live and. And then going back to our mission and the 1.7% of women who make it.

Sandra Yancey [00:19:20]:

Do you feel like you're drowning in your business? Like you're doing everything?

Sandra Yancey [00:19:24]:

It's.

Sandra Yancey [00:19:24]:

Something has to give, but you're afraid it might be you. What if I told you there's a network of over 500,000 women entrepreneurs all dedicated to supporting each other. A network of women helping women. I'm Sandra Yancey, founder of Ewomenne Network, and I'm inviting you to join us and become a member. Ewomennenetwork.com we can't wait to meet you.

Briana Dai [00:19:50]:

What it's really done for me now lived that one person experience is it's created, I think, this really intense need for women to know, why not you too?

Sandra Yancey [00:20:07]:

Why not?

Briana Dai [00:20:08]:

You know.

Sandra Yancey [00:20:09]:

Exactly.

Briana Dai [00:20:09]:

1% is not an impossible figure.

Sandra Yancey [00:20:13]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:20:13]:

It might be improbable, but never mistake the impossible and the improbable.

Sandra Yancey [00:20:19]:

Yeah. Two. Yeah. Two different things.

Briana Dai [00:20:21]:

They're totally different things. And there is sure, 99% people that might think otherwise or say otherwise or believe otherwise, but there's gotta be for that 1%, there's gotta be somebody that's

Sandra Yancey [00:20:33]:

1% that declares it, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna make it happen.

Briana Dai [00:20:36]:

It's a decision.

Sandra Yancey [00:20:38]:

It is a decision. E Women Network is a 1% company, you know, and so my message really is if, if you have just an inkling.

Briana Dai [00:20:49]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:20:49]:

That you could be a 1 percenter.

Briana Dai [00:20:53]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:20:53]:

Then all it's asking for you to do is take it by the reins and say, let's go.

Briana Dai [00:20:58]:

Yeah. And it's slow. Progress is also still progress. And I think, you know, to me, it's, it's, it's business, but it's life. I mean, we all are faced with crazy odds, you know, whether it's getting out of a horrific relationship or you're dealing with your own health crisis or someone you love is dealing with a health crisis, or maybe it's your children or, you know, whatever it is, maybe you're climbing out of a bad credit situation. Anybody and everybody is fighting something right now or will fight something at some point in your life. And you'll be told that it's too far gone, or you'll be told that it's not worth it. But the true meaning between the dream and the calling, like we talk.

Briana Dai [00:21:40]:

We've talked about in other episodes, is when you know when it's a calling, that it's not going to give up on you. And you owe it to yourself. Yourself and your soul.

Sandra Yancey [00:21:50]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:21:51]:

To fight for it with everything you've got.

Sandra Yancey [00:21:54]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:21:55]:

I remember when we met the EMTs and the men who were responsible for keeping me alive for 45 minutes.

Sandra Yancey [00:22:03]:

On the, on the care flight. Yes. In the helicopter.

Briana Dai [00:22:07]:

Yes. And they are trained to only perform resuscitation or CPR for. I think 20 minutes.

Sandra Yancey [00:22:18]:

Yeah, I think it's less than that.

Briana Dai [00:22:19]:

It's 15 minutes.

Sandra Yancey [00:22:20]:

15, 20 minutes. And then they can declare you, you know, Deceased.

Briana Dai [00:22:24]:

Yes. And they didn't stop. And I remember asking them, why did you choose to keep going? And they said, well, your heart, it just wasn't quitting. Like we would get a little flicker,

Sandra Yancey [00:22:37]:

electrical current, a little electric current that wasn't beating. It had an electric current. So they knew the organ wasn't dead.

Briana Dai [00:22:44]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:22:44]:

And they weren't going to give up on it. They said we could tell she was fighting.

Briana Dai [00:22:47]:

Yeah. It's just interesting. It makes me emotional, but sure. You know, it's.

Sandra Yancey [00:22:55]:

It's.

Briana Dai [00:22:56]:

To me, it's like when you know that when you, when you can fight, even when you don't realize you're fighting.

Sandra Yancey [00:23:05]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:23:06]:

You know, that's when you know, fight.

Kym Yancey [00:23:08]:

When you don't realize you're fighting.

Briana Dai [00:23:10]:

Yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:23:10]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:23:11]:

And it doesn't feel like you're fighting, but you just aren't giving up, you know? And I think more women find themselves with their backs against the wall and they so just want to give up and they so deserve to keep on pushing.

Kym Yancey [00:23:28]:

I've had an epiphany during this conversation.

Sandra Yancey [00:23:30]:

That's it.

Kym Yancey [00:23:31]:

We're 1% parents.

Briana Dai [00:23:36]:

Yeah. So for the two year anniversary that just passed, because we're recording this right now in April, so.

Kym Yancey [00:23:43]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:23:44]:

10 days ago.

Briana Dai [00:23:45]:

Yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:23:45]:

Okay. It'd be interesting to ask you this question in another two years or another ten years.

Briana Dai [00:23:50]:

Yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:23:51]:

What. Who are you now? I'm. There was you before April 11th.

Sandra Yancey [00:23:58]:

Yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:23:59]:

And there's you today. I'm just. How has this affected you, Brianna?

Sandra Yancey [00:24:03]:

Oh, man.

Briana Dai [00:24:04]:

You know, I, I started seeing a therapist because processing it all has been eye openingly strange. I feel like the trauma of what happened impacted you all waves sooner than it did me. Because you saw the worst of it. You were receiving the news before I could even comprehend what was happening to me. And then for me it didn't start to get heavy until like two years in a little less than two years in about, you know, around 20, 25, after I'd had Bryant. He was born with some complications and who knows to what degree it was tied because I conceived him like three months after the incident.

Sandra Yancey [00:24:44]:

So, you know, another reason why I

Sandra Yancey [00:24:47]:

just am like, you know, he was

Briana Dai [00:24:49]:

literally born 11 months after the incident to the day on March 11th at 11pm and he was a scheduled C section. I wasn't supposed to have him that late. It was scheduled for 8pm but there was reasons for why? It was delayed, and they couldn't get that thing early.

Sandra Yancey [00:25:06]:

He was early. He was early.

Briana Dai [00:25:07]:

And it ended up being at 11pm and it's just. It's so crazy to me. So I've, you know, gotten to this place. Place almost two years later where things are starting to seem normal, and I've got a healthy son, and I'm feeling like I've got my health, and I'm feeling like I found my stride. I'm feeling like I found my message. And I started to get this, like, wave of fear and anxiety, because that is the same feeling that I felt the day that April 11, 2024 happened. You know, I was. I was on that feeling of I found my stride.

Briana Dai [00:25:38]:

Things are going really, really great. And I've started to sense this fear of. I did start to sense this fear of who's going to pull the rug from underneath me, you know, when's the shoe going to drop? Because this feeling of being. Of things, being good is a trigger. A trigger. And that's not the Brianna that I used to be. You know, I used to only expect good things to happen to me because I was a believer that if you're a good person, good things will happen to you. And what I learned is that bad things actually can happen to good people, you know, and it's a really painful realization that sometimes there's just unexplainable things that we go through in life.

Briana Dai [00:26:21]:

But diamonds are formed under pressure. And I started going to a trauma therapist, and it's really been powerful for me because he had me write a letter to myself before the incident. And it really was a process of me grieving because I'm not the same Brianna that I was before. And I got to acknowledge all of the past versions of me that will never be the same and accept that they'll never be the same. And I think through healing and doing the hard work and facing the hard things, it has helped me really reframe my belief that it's not, you know, about the 99% that could go wrong. It really. Life is not about living in the fear of that. It's about living in the possibility of the 1% that could go right and just charging forward with this belief that you are a 1 percenter and you can and you have the capacity to be, but it's not gonna.

Briana Dai [00:27:34]:

It wasn't handed to me, you know, I didn't wake up and just, you know, start walking.

Sandra Yancey [00:27:40]:

You were in therapy, all of us, seven types of therapies or whatever, for Eight hours a day. You said, mom, this is, this is like going to work. I said, and that's your job to get better.

Briana Dai [00:27:50]:

And I would go and I would see other people in there who just felt too defeated, you know, and they kind of just showed up and they weren't engaged and they just, you know, I mean, their circumstances were worse and they just didn't see the point in trying, you know, and that you can tell, you can tell when a person's really trying, you know, especially like in physical therapy, trying to walk again or trying to lift, you know, hold a piece of a pen and write on a piece of paper. You can tell people who really are truly putting every ounce of effort in, to getting better and moving past their circumstance. And I was definitely one of them.

Sandra Yancey [00:28:31]:

You were, because you were in six weeks. After we got you out of the second hospital, you were in six weeks of full time therapy. And at the end of that, they had, all the therapists had a meeting with us. You know, we were on it and Travis was on it, his parents were on it. We were all, you know, to get

Sandra Yancey [00:28:50]:

there, the common one, the common theme was, well, so. And they brought them in one by one.

Sandra Yancey [00:28:58]:

They weren't all, all the therapists weren't there at the same time. They, they brought the speech one in, the occupational one, the physical one, all the. And, and one by one to give, give us their evaluation of you for that distinct therapy. At. To a fault. They were all like, well, Brianna has

Sandra Yancey [00:29:15]:

no problems advocating for herself. It's like, okay, well, you know, I

Briana Dai [00:29:22]:

did get to a point where I was aware enough that I know what my deficits are.

Sandra Yancey [00:29:25]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:29:25]:

So if we're not working on those deficits, you're wasting my time.

Sandra Yancey [00:29:30]:

You even said to them at one point, I'd like to bring in my laptop because there's some work I could do. Well, if you could teach me this, I could color pictures or do long handed equations or I could get on my laptop and like look at my work. Something I would really do. Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:29:44]:

Getting better at typing again is the skill I would like to get better at again. So can we, can we do that maybe and focus on that? Yeah, yeah, I did. I got to that point. But that, I think that that is the, that is the fighter in me.

Sandra Yancey [00:29:56]:

It is.

Briana Dai [00:29:56]:

And I think it's in everyone. It's just a matter of if you want to tap into her.

Sandra Yancey [00:30:01]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:30:02]:

You know, so.

Sandra Yancey [00:30:03]:

And then surround yourself with other people who are going to be the wind beneath your wings when you need it most because no one makes it alone. I mean, you take the lion's share of the commitment and the drive and the doing it. And you also knew you had a lot of love and a lot of people rooting for you and wanting to help, do anything they could to make it. Prayers.

Kym Yancey [00:30:25]:

The prayers were unbelievable.

Sandra Yancey [00:30:27]:

Prayers of the community were just.

Briana Dai [00:30:30]:

I think for anyone that's going through something challenging is to put a date on the calendar that gives you a sense of purpose. Like for me, that was an event that I was hosting in June. And I remember being in the hospital and you asking me if we should cancel it. And I think at the time I couldn't even hold a pen and I didn't know how I was going to be well enough to do it. But I. But there was something in me that was like, don't cancel it.

Sandra Yancey [00:30:57]:

Yeah. You needed that as a. And you needed that as a drive. Something look forward to. And I was like, I might be by her side. We might be both be sitting by her, but we are not going to cancel this.

Briana Dai [00:31:06]:

Yeah. You know, and, and I remember my first day when I went from inpatient therapy to outpatient. I was doing my onboarding for my outpatient. I was in my speech therapist office and I told her, I've got an event on June 11, I need you to get me better by June 11. And she just was like, eyebrows raised, nodding, okay. You know, not going to happen is

Sandra Yancey [00:31:31]:

what she was every thinking.

Sandra Yancey [00:31:33]:

They thought I was crazy and we

Sandra Yancey [00:31:35]:

were crazy for supporting you in it. And you have to be a little cray cray when you're a one percenter, Brianna. You have to be different than majority of how people think, you know, and you're it.

Briana Dai [00:31:45]:

But I think that's our audience too.

Sandra Yancey [00:31:47]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:31:48]:

Women entrepreneurs are also.

Sandra Yancey [00:31:49]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:31:50]:

A little cray cray. Yeah. You know.

Sandra Yancey [00:31:52]:

Yeah, yeah, we know we don't belong in normal rooms.

Sandra Yancey [00:31:54]:

Those people.

Sandra Yancey [00:31:55]:

People are not our people. And so we had the two year anniversary about 10 days ago or so and when we were in the hospital and it's funny how you remember this one.

Briana Dai [00:32:05]:

Well, I actually thought it was Chelsea.

Sandra Yancey [00:32:07]:

Was it? Yes.

Briana Dai [00:32:08]:

And then she said your mom wrote in the platinum Facebook group.

Sandra Yancey [00:32:12]:

Yeah, I think I did.

Briana Dai [00:32:14]:

You declared it and so we never let you forget it.

Sandra Yancey [00:32:16]:

Yeah. That we were going to get a family tattoo. 1% tattoo.

Sandra Yancey [00:32:21]:

Yep.

Briana Dai [00:32:22]:

So if you're watching on the YouTube channel, you want to show the camera your tattoos.

Kym Yancey [00:32:26]:

Well, I, I have a. There we go. Is the ring come off?

Sandra Yancey [00:32:30]:

Does the ring come off?

Kym Yancey [00:32:31]:

Well, I Mean.

Briana Dai [00:32:32]:

I mean, it had to for you.

Sandra Yancey [00:32:34]:

So we. We got them on our. Our wedding ring fingers.

Kym Yancey [00:32:37]:

What?

Sandra Yancey [00:32:37]:

It says 1%. Yeah.

Kym Yancey [00:32:39]:

I don't even know how to like this. I hope that doesn't look odd.

Sandra Yancey [00:32:47]:

It's 1%.

Sandra Yancey [00:32:49]:

And the neat thing is, is you can't see it this way. And you can't see it.

Briana Dai [00:32:51]:

She's really proud of the secrecy of it, I guess.

Sandra Yancey [00:32:53]:

Which camera are we looking at? This. Whatever here, they're saying. So you can't see it this way

Sandra Yancey [00:32:57]:

or this way, but when you.

Sandra Yancey [00:33:00]:

It's hard to do it to the camera, isn't it?

Kym Yancey [00:33:02]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:33:02]:

When you do it that way, it's. It's right there. And when we put on our wedding

Sandra Yancey [00:33:06]:

rings, it covers that we thought this

Sandra Yancey [00:33:09]:

was the most important place because we made you. It's a symbol of our love. And this. This. This finger and this ring represents our love for each other and therefore our

Briana Dai [00:33:18]:

love for you and your way to

Sandra Yancey [00:33:20]:

cover it and our way to cover it.

Sandra Yancey [00:33:24]:

And. Yeah, you'll have to go to Brianna's Instagram to see the video of the whole family. I mean, Rylan got a big one.

Sandra Yancey [00:33:29]:

Our son, your brother. And then, you know, Travis got a really big one.

Sandra Yancey [00:33:34]:

And then your girlfriends came and you

Sandra Yancey [00:33:37]:

got yours as a little one.

Briana Dai [00:33:38]:

I did a script. Yes.

Sandra Yancey [00:33:39]:

So I spelled mine out 1%, and I love it. It represents so 1% represents so much in my life.

Briana Dai [00:33:47]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:33:47]:

You know, you for certain. No question about it. And the fact that we've made it 48 years probably is another version of a 1%.

Sandra Yancey [00:33:57]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:33:57]:

Another.

Sandra Yancey [00:33:58]:

Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:33:59]:

Yeah.

Sandra Yancey [00:33:59]:

And to have a 1% company, that's all about helping women who want to be 1 percenters, too. Yeah.

Briana Dai [00:34:07]:

No matter what odds are stacked against you, even if they. There's a 1% chance that it could work out.

Sandra Yancey [00:34:14]:

That's the flame.

Briana Dai [00:34:15]:

That's the flame. And you can.

Sandra Yancey [00:34:17]:

We will fan your flame.

Briana Dai [00:34:18]:

Yes.

Sandra Yancey [00:34:19]:

We will help you blow that up to a full, explosive success story, because you don't just mean business. She means millions.

Kym Yancey [00:34:30]:

I'm alive. I'm alive.